The journey of faith is one of remembrance. And as I mentioned in last week’s post, forgetfulness can cause us to wander far off the path that leads us home.
Scripture is full of admonitions to remember. The Israelites celebrated various feasts during the year to remember all that God had done for them. Parents were instructed to tell their children the story of their redemption from slavery. Many events in Israel’s history were marked with pillars and monuments to remember what happened at a specific location, i.e. when they crossed the Jordan River for example. And Paul pointed back to the gospel to remind the Galatians of their freedom in Christ.
Daniel Taylor in “The Power of Words and the Wonder of God” says this about the importance of remembering, “When Israel remembered the stories that told them who they were, where they had come from, and who their God was, they prospered. When they quit telling the stories, they no longer understood who they were, and they invited disaster. The same is true of us.” And this, “The nation of Israel had a problem with memory lapses. The prophets (who were primarily storytellers) were always telling them to remember the stories of the past because they were the key to the present and the future.”
When I look back at the ways God has blessed me in the past, I can face the future with confidence, trusting in His future grace.
Marriage is designed by God to be a visual reflection of the relationship the church has with Christ. And so remembrance is important in marriage as well. Just as the Israelites needed to remember their stories to keep them focused on their first love, so too in marriage do we need to remember our own stories. And just as the Israelites were prone to forgetfulness about God’s redemptive work in their lives, so too can we be forgetful about God has done in our marriage and the journey we have taken together over the years.
Since my husband and I had children, our lives have gotten caught up in all the activities and details of raising them. Sometimes we forget what it was like before, when it was just the two of us. We’ve forgotten the fun times we had as a couple. We’ve forgotten that we once enjoyed spending time together and that we had joint interests other than watching the boys play soccer or break boards at Tae Kwon Do. Our walls that were once covered with wedding photos and pictures of adventures in our college days, are now plastered with photos of smiling boys and their adventures.
In an effort to remember who we are as a couple, I decided to make a ‘memorial’ wall of the travel adventures my husband and I have taken. Because one day, the kids will be gone and it will be just the two of us again. Will we recognize one another or will we be complete strangers? Will we remember the fun times we enjoyed before being parents? And will we face our future with confidence, knowing that more adventures and fun lie ahead?
I hope so. And just as I need to remember and reflect on the story of God’s love written on my heart, I look at these photos and momentos to remind me of our own story of love. Also just as with faith, this remembrance helps me look forward to the future of my marriage with hope and confidence.
How about you? How do you remember your story of love?
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It is so true that as our lives fill up with our kids’ activities, we have less and less time to be married couples, best friends who love to do things together… I really like your travel wall for you and your husband’s adventures, just to remind yourselves of who you are when you aren’t playing mom and dad. Just recently have my husband and I started to really fight to keep track of this identity we have, by carving out date nights even if it’s after our kids are in bed for the night and free movie from the library… looking through old photos and videos. Thanks for sharing this, it’s great.
Love your travel wall!
My hubby and I have been stealing more time away lately to focus on just us. practice flirting again;) amazing how it makes me a better mom, too…
Love your travel wall Christina.We have pinned maps and some photos of our travel together but i didn’t think from your perspective.Will be doing this more diligently now.Thank you.
I love this idea and I love your wall! Can you tell me where you got/how you made that map?
I got it off of Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/astepinthejourney?ref=shop_sugg
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Such a great admonition to us today, Christine. I love it! And the big “F” that is wrapped in some kind of map. Is that of a place you’ve visited with your hubby? My husband and I are going to England and Wales this spring and I’ve been planning on buying an antique map of the UK to hang above our bed. I love maps and I love the idea of “mapping” our love story for all to see. Great post and ideas!
Yes, it’s a map of the area where we went to college:)
Beautiful. I love how you preserve the memories